I could write a book of the dumb things people said to us! The “best” was “I know how you feel because I held my dog when he died”. Also up there was “you can have another baby”’ People mean well but need to stay quiet when they don’t know what to say.
Sorry you’re going through this. It is rough and NOTHING prepares you for it!
Oy vey! I am not making excuses, but I think people are so uncomfortable with death, they just spew out impulsive comments. Some want to comfort, but every comment really does diminish one's own personal experience. Honestly, I am sure I have said the wrong things too during my life.
I got the "my dog died" one, too, as well as being told during the Shiva that I would "never be happy again". Thanks for writing these truths; it helps those of us who have been through this feel like we're not going completely insane, and hopefully will help others think before they speak. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I could write a book of the dumb things people said to us! The “best” was “I know how you feel because I held my dog when he died”. Also up there was “you can have another baby”’ People mean well but need to stay quiet when they don’t know what to say.
Sorry you’re going through this. It is rough and NOTHING prepares you for it!
Totally!!
Oy vey! I am not making excuses, but I think people are so uncomfortable with death, they just spew out impulsive comments. Some want to comfort, but every comment really does diminish one's own personal experience. Honestly, I am sure I have said the wrong things too during my life.
Oh I know I have said dumb things to people too!!!
Jesus H!
I got the "my dog died" one, too, as well as being told during the Shiva that I would "never be happy again". Thanks for writing these truths; it helps those of us who have been through this feel like we're not going completely insane, and hopefully will help others think before they speak. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
That is exceptionally stupid!!!!
I can’t get over that. I’m so sorry for your loss too.
Were any of these people non family members?